“The Illness of Love”

This week you may be reminded of the valuable lesson you learned about relationships & how far you’ve come. You’ve recognized how in the past you may have put unrealistic expectations on partners forcing them to live up to the ideals in your head. No longer obsessed in an unhealthy way with love or sex, you recognize your lover is human & is not to be idolized. Now, you successfully avoid making unfair comparisons with new crushes to past lovers, those who seemed perfect or those you demonized because they fell from grace. Instead you allowed a new concept of love evolve in your heart & mind. Moving past extremes & losing yourself completely in relationships, you found a balance in the love game. You learned the prettiest key may be tempting but may not be all that it seems. What looks good on paper could have some dark nasty skeletons in their closet. You discovered that person was just a detour from what you really desired. You also realized not to make the obvious choice, that by walking through ‘the unexpected door” you could yield the most gratifying rewards & valuable lessons. It may have taken a few disappointments to discover that you could be ok without a partner or a romance. In fact, it’s through these failures that you reevaluated all the love relationships in your life. Realizing that seeking a love partner it’s not the cure all for everything that ails you and truthfully, the pursuit of a partner or sex was really just holding you back from healing or facing what needed to be processed within. Here you learned that to find kindness & love, you must be kind & loving to yourself. A healthy relationship requires two independent people who consciously commit to being the best version of themselves and the key to finding the right partner is one who is just as committed in finding a relationship based on honesty, support, trust, respect & cooperation as you are.