“Coming up with your own solutions"

Following the fatherly advice of someone who tells you what you NEED to hear rather than what you WANT to hear will help you now. They not only provide necessary emotional support to guide you towards the best path to take but the reason why you must travel it as well.  This is because they have genuine concerns about your well-being and want to see you succeed in life. There’s almost a sense of duty to help you be a person of integrity. One who can effectively deal with whatever life throws their way.  Some of life’s lessons can be more palatable when delivered by a wise, loving elder who holds you very dear. A dose of tough love if needed to help you to understand where you went off course so as to not make the same mistakes again. However, this situation is unique to you and there’s no plan book. It’s not possible to navigate this process following step by step instructions prepared by someone else. They will not be applicable here & will hinder your process. You must find your own way. You can only be taught the WHY but not the HOW-the how you’ll have to find on your own. This will empower you to solve what you thought you could not. You can get advice & support but ultimately you’ll have to find the applicable  solution to your particular situation & discover how successful it will be. There’s no one size fits all approach here. A tailored solution can be found but you have to be willing to accept the cost to get it. You’ll find you are willing to pay the price to find it the answer. The price may be mean doing your own research, foot work, investing time & attention, taking additional schooling, or making sacrifices. You will draft & follow what it takes to solve your own dilemma.